Love (At First Sight)
Ahhh love! It’s an emotion we all desire to have in our lives. And not just a “feel good love”, but a love that stands the test of time. A love that makes us each feel like any song from an Alicia Keys or Maxwell catalog. Love feels so damn good doesn’t it…or at least we’ve been told. If we aren’t kidding ourselves, love is a commodity more costlier than the most precious stone on Earth and it is so hard to come by. There is a thrill in finding love.
It feels like an addiction when it’s exciting and new. In fact, nothing knocks us off our feet more than the feeling of LOVE (AT FIRST SIGHT).
Have I had love (at first sight)? I’m sure I have. But it was at a time when I was much younger and much more…”free”. As a man in his mid-30s, I can’t say love at first sight is high on the priority list. In fact, I’ve had so many so-called love at first sight episodes, my experiences should have a syndicated TV show.
I’d call it “The Real HouseDummies of Cupids Arrow”…SMH!!!!
But we can dream, can’t we? With dreaming comes the manifestation of what we ultimately desire–to live in the moment of being frivolous. But at some point, you identify the benefits of being responsible with how you evaluate and respond to love. We must understand there are levels of love. Those levels determine the level of intimacy and the relationships you allow in your life. There are certain timeframes or benchmarks that must be implemented. Not for societal comparisons of what is deemed acceptable, but to give yourself a chance to assess if a potential partner ultimately deserves to have the “potential” designation removed and become your compatible partner.
Finding love at first sight can be quite the fairy tale journey. But redefining your expectations of how you determine love (at first sight) may not be about anyone else. Maybe the person you ultimately end up in love with at first sight, just may end up with you falling in love with yourself…all over again.