My man! I got a question for you my friend. There is this guy I recently met and he seems to be a really good and genuine guy. I really have spent the past couple of months getting to know him and I think I am falling for him. I want to take our relationship to the next level and make it official by moving in together. I have never lived with another guy before and I am curious as to how if this is going to work. I am really nervous but I really like this guy and I think it is worth the risk. Tell me. Do you think I am making the right decision or do you think it is too soon after dating for three months?
First let me say, congratulations on finding someone new. I know for me, in the past when I met new guys, there was this “butterfly effect” where we just couldn’t get enough of each other. Each moment just seemed magical and we were magnetic in so many ways. So, I know exactly how you feel. Moving in together with someone you’ve only known for three months is a very risky move. The truth is, anytime you share intimate space with someone is always a gamble. But the test is, how much are you willing to gamble with each other’s future if you are wanting to “play house” with someone you’ve known for about 90 days? There is a lot to explore. There is also a lot on your plate if you are wanting to use this opportunity to move in together as a chance to make your relationship official. Also, how does he feel about it? Who’s idea was it to share a space? Was it a mutual decision? How does he pay his bills and have you noticed his financial habits enough to feel comfortable sharing household expenses? There are a lot of questions to be asked considering how much can you really know about someone to feel comfort being in a relationship and sharing a space in three months. You do have the benefit of being of a particular age and allowing everything you’ve learned so far to navigate your decision. Use that as a compass to determine if this is something you should be doing so soon. If your gut is telling you it is too soon, then it is. Revisit this idea in another year after having the conversation with him about your hesitation. If he is game for waiting another year, then he sounds like a keeper. Enjoy this time together and have fun getting to know him independent of living together. You can still visit each other’s homes and stay the night until an adequate amount of time has taken place!
Good luck to you both!